Making Your Child Hearing Without Shouting

Did not taste good to see parents in a public place trying to make his orders heard by shouting. When the parents are shouting, the child was screaming bandwagon as she spoke. Should it be like that? While the other kids could, really, was told by her parents without having a way of shouting.

Communicate with the child should occur in both directions. You talk to him, he listened, and vice versa without any one of the intonation of his voice rising. There are effective ways to communicate with the child without having to shout. Here's tips:

"I" Message

There is one expressive communication techniques for use with a child, his name is "my message". There are three key words in this technique, namely; I felt, when, and because.

When you're in a situation when the child asks for something now, you can use this technique, do not forget to use the three key words, for example, "Mama (I) feel annoyed when you interrupt the working mother, because she must finish it before we go to the park play it. "

This technique is effective because it focused on you and your feelings. This technique does not blame anyone, but to be a simple statement of your perspective on the situation at hand.

Emphasize the positivity

One way to communicate effectively with your children is to construct a sentence in a positive way. Avoid the words "no" or "no" when talking to children. Instead of saying, "Do not throw toys on the floor," it's better to say, "The toy's place in the basket of toys". Although the change is simple, the selection of the words you use have a major impact on the kids reaction and how to interact with others.

Learning to listen

Learning and practicing receptive communication is an important aspect to improve parent-child interaction. Very important about what you say (or what is expressed on your child) heard and understood. Listening to children is part of the receptive communication, and can be used as a way to understand the child.

When listening to children, stop all forms of activity you are doing and focus on your child. Kneel, sit, or lift your child on a bench so that you and he are in an equivalent level. When the small talk, really listen. Ask yourself, "What is perceived by my son?" Then, repeat what you hear or what you think is how he feels (if sound is less clear).

The key words similar to the first point, "you, to feel, because". Example, "You feel upset because you want to go to the playground now also works when Mama again." According to Terry Meredith, Speech and Language Pathologists of TLM Consulting, it is important for children to express feelings through language. Parents can also tell the child that it is not a problem for some of the same feeling as well.

Action more clearly than words

Remember, that your thoughts are communicated through signs of non-verbal. The way you carry yourself can say a lot of things rather than words.

Your breath is very tight, puckered brow, clenched hands, and then all of a sudden the child asked, "Mama angry?" and you replied with a frown, "No, Mama baseball mad". Your body language is clearly showing you are angry and upset, but you actually said the opposite. When actions and words you are not in sync, you send a double message to the child. You lied to feelings, but you show what you actually feel through your body.

"Most of what we communicate comes through non-verbal communication. Make sure your non-verbal language in accordance with what you say," suggest Meredith.

Above techniques can be used to communicate positive things to your children. Here are the tips that you can do to practice every day, lift your child into your lap, wrap your arms on they body, then say, "Mama is very happy when you have close to Mama, because Mama love you" with words or a more understandable language that you and your child.

With this simple techniques you can learn and do how you can make your child hearing what you says without need to shooting.